Nervous About Going to Court? Read This First.
Appearing in front of a judge can be intimidating—especially if you’ve never been in a courtroom before. Whether you’re dealing with a DUI, a serious traffic ticket, or a misdemeanor criminal charge in California, how you present yourself in court can significantly affect your outcome.
Many people focus on hiring a lawyer (which is essential), but they often forget how important it is to know how to speak to the judge properly. Below are the top 10 do’s and don’ts to help you avoid costly mistakes—and potentially influence the result of your case.
1. Do Address the Judge as “Your Honor”
Don’t use casual or inappropriate language.
Always refer to the judge as “Your Honor.” Never say “Judge,” “Sir,” “Ma’am,” or use first names or slang. Speaking with proper courtroom etiquette shows that you respect the court and take your case seriously.
2. Do Let Your Attorney Do Most of the Talking
Don’t interrupt or argue with the judge.
If you have a lawyer, let them guide the conversation. If the judge asks you a direct question, answer respectfully and briefly. Interrupting, talking over others, or trying to argue your case independently is never a good idea.
3. Do Be Honest and Direct
Don’t lie, exaggerate, or deflect blame.
Judges have heard every excuse in the book. Lying or distorting the truth can hurt your credibility—and in some cases, lead to perjury charges. If you made a mistake, take responsibility. If you’re innocent, stick to the facts without dramatizing.
4. Do Keep Your Statements Brief and Focused
Don’t ramble or go off on tangents.
When you’re nervous, it’s easy to talk too much or get off topic. Judges appreciate clear, concise answers. If you’re unsure what to say, talk with your attorney before your hearing to prepare key statements.
5. Do Show Remorse If Appropriate
Don’t minimize your actions or make excuses.
If you’re admitting guilt—especially in DUI or traffic-related cases—sincere remorse can positively affect your outcome. Avoid trying to justify your actions. Instead, acknowledge the mistake and express a desire to make things right.
6. Do Dress Appropriately for Court
Don’t wear casual, revealing, or flashy clothing.
First impressions matter. Dress like you would for a job interview. Business or business-casual attire is appropriate. Avoid jeans, shorts, tank tops, flip-flops, hats, or anything that draws negative attention.
7. Do Arrive Early and Be Prepared
Don’t be late or forget important documents.
Arriving late can result in a bench warrant or missed opportunity for leniency. Get to court at least 30 minutes early, especially if you’re unfamiliar with the location or parking situation. Bring any paperwork your attorney has requested.
8. Do Remain Calm and Composed
Don’t get angry, emotional, or defensive.
Even if the hearing isn’t going your way, losing your temper or becoming visibly upset will hurt your case. Keep your emotions in check and remain professional throughout. If you feel overwhelmed, ask your attorney for support.
9. Do Turn Off Your Phone Before Entering Court
Don’t text, scroll, or let your phone ring during proceedings.
Using your phone during a court session is considered disrespectful and could lead to sanctions or removal from the courtroom. Silence your phone and keep it out of sight at all times.
10. Do Ask for Clarification If You’re Confused
Don’t pretend to understand when you don’t.
It’s okay to be unfamiliar with legal terms or procedures. If the judge says something you don’t understand, respectfully ask:
“Your Honor, may I ask for clarification?”
Judges prefer that you ask rather than make mistakes based on confusion.
Final Thoughts
You only get one shot to make a good impression in court. The way you speak, behave, and prepare tells the judge a lot about your attitude and credibility.
Even if the facts of your case aren’t in your favor, showing respect and responsibility can influence your sentence, fine, or outcome.
Speak to a Defense Attorney Who Prepares You for Court — Not Just Your Case
At Southwest Legal, we don’t just represent you—we prepare you for what to say, how to act, and how to present yourself in front of a judge. We understand the pressure you’re under, and we work with you every step of the way.
If you’ve been charged with a DUI, traffic violation, or misdemeanor offense in California, Call us today for a free consultation. Don’t face the judge alone. Let us stand by you.
